Every Relationship Matters
All relationships are important and can be used to benefit your life. Use every relationship for your learning.
Hello, Happy Monday. Of course, it’s me, RaShawn-Renée. And today in our mindful communication, we’re going to talk about relationships. Something that all of us have, right? Relationships. And the most important relationship we have is that one that we have with ourselves. I didn’t know that for a long time, and that’s not what we’re going to talk about exactly today, the relationship with our self, we’re going to really talk about the relationship that we have with others and how the relationship with our self influences how we have relationships with others based upon our seeding as little people.
So in 44 Hours & 21 Minutes: A Woman’s Truth and Power, I share the story of my seeding with relationship to the three men that supported in my rearing. And I say that sometimes those men treated me like I was everything. Other times they treated me as if I were invisible. And so that’s a large spectrum in-between, right?
I mean, how many of us have relationships that are wonderful on one side, not so wonderful, really not so wonderful on the other side and so much in between? Most of us, right?
So then we move on into our adult lives, not understanding our real value or how the seeding of how we were raised so greatly influences the relationship that we have with our self and the relationships that we have with others.
So here’s what I want you to be mindful of, every relationship that you had as a child before the age of seven influences the relationships that you currently have. So, it is so important, it is the utmost of importance that you look at those relationships and if those relationships did not nurture in you, honor you, love you in the way that you desire to be nurtured, honored and loved, it is your responsibility, your responsibility alone for you to learn to love yourself in the loving that you want to receive.
And the way you do that is by using the nurturing and the loving and the honoring that you did not receive as the biggest jump off point for your learning. Okay? That’s what you got to do.
One small example of that is, if you speak to yourself negatively, if you allow another to speak to you negatively, if that has come from how you were spoken to as a child, stop it now. Meaning, every time you speak to yourself negatively, clean it up and give yourself grace, give yourself love, nurture yourself through whatever it is that you were speaking to yourself negatively about.
Be mindful, be mindful of how you’re having relationships and always connect the dots back to how you were seeded if it’s not relatable to how you want to have a relationship.
Okay, that’s all for now. Remember, you’re magnificent, you’re precious, you’re spectacular, you matter, and you’re the prize. Grab it. Put it in your heart and keep it there.
Bye for now.