Don’t Listen to that Sh–!
Okay, the song comes up: “I’m so excited and I just can’t hide it!” you know there’s a singer in me that likes to come out from time to time. I tell her, “stop!”. She doesn’t, she just comes out…. So I’m glad that you enjoy it because I really enjoy letting her out every once in a while -but I know not to sing too much. I won’t make you endure THAT!
What we’re going to talk about today is something that…. I think its probably the only thing that really irritates me actually. And what irritates me about it is…. Well, first let me tell you what is it, right?
It’s putting others ahead of you.
And so we hear all the time: You know, you have to take care of ___. Whatever, so if you’re a mom for example, you’re taking care of yourself, you’re taking care of your children, you’re taking care of you husband, you’re taking care of your home, you’re working, you’re doing all these things and so you’re constantly putting everything in front of you. And most of us do that and then it becomes a badge of honor, the more you can do for others and not for yourself, it becomes a badge of honor.
I was having a conversation with my husband, I said: how did it become when you say ‘oh, I’ve had a 14 hour day or an 18 hour day’ people go ‘oh that’s so good!’ -how is that even reasonable? Is that self care? Is that making you a priority? Hmmm.. I don’t think so?
So what I want to talk to you about is really the distinction between taking care of yourself and taking care of another without giving yourself away. That’s what we’re going to talk about on this Mindful Monday because the line is subtle. And how I mean that is, if you are taking care of your family, your business, your friends, your parents, absolutely do those things. Bring your full heart to it. AND! Don’t lose yourself in that. Which means, take care of You!
You know, when you’re taking a trip somewhere and you get on the airplane and theyre giving instructions at the front of the flight when it takes off, the flight attendant tells us: put your oxygen mask on first’ that’s what happens in our lives…. We have to put our own oxygen masks on first. Which means, you take care of yourself, you honor yourself….. You love yourself…. And then you share from your overflow. Not from your depletion. So please, don’t let what you hear in your ear from society tell you that there is something wrong with you when you’re just not completely exhausted. When you’re not overworked, when you’re not taking care of yourself so you can take care of others.
So make sure you take care of you
You take care of others from the overflow because You Matter! And let go of that societal conditioning that constantly tells you: you have to do more.
Alright, that’s what I wanted to share for you in this beautiful mindful Monday. That’s a kiss for you, grab it, put it in your heart, its the song of Self-Love. Love yourself. Care for yourself. Take care of you and give from the overflow.
Bye for now